Tuesday 15 April 2014

The Change

I still remember the day it all changed in my marriage to Adi. It was Sep 15, 2010. I was on my way to work that I realized that they had closed the freeway and that it would take me at-least a couple of hrs to reach office. I decided to go back home and WFH. When I reached home I knocked but there was no answer . I thought may Adi had gone to buy some groceries so I used the spare key to unlock the door. As I entered the hallway I realized there was someone on the bed in the bedroom. At first I thought maybe Adi had gone back to sleep. So I tiptoed into the bedroom to startle him. As I entered the bedroom it was my turn to be startled. I saw Adi lying on the bed with his laptop and head phones on. His pajamas were down and he had his dick in his right hand. I immediately shouted

"WHAT IS THIS ADI ??????"

Upon hearing my voice Adi was startled. He immediately got the headphones off and started to get his pajamas up. I then realized that he was watching a video of a three-way with 2 boys and a girl on a porn site. I immediately walked out of the room. Adi followed me into the other room. I sat on the bed and started to cry . Adi tried to console me but I rebuked him and told him to leave me alone. He went out of the room and I locked the door behind him. I sat on the bed and felt humiliated . I though how could he do this to me. Going behind my back masturbating while I toiled hard at work. The more I thought the angrier I got. After a couple of hrs Adi knocked on the door and I heard him apologizing repeatedly. At first I thought of ignoring him but then I decided to confront him . I needed some answers and I was not getting them sitting here alone in the room. As I opened the door Adi started apologizing again . I calmly told him " WE NEED TO TALK".

We then went to the dining table and sat and I asked " How Long ?"

He replied "2 months". I again asked him "Why ". He then tried to explain his insecurities and the free time at hand and the fact that with me being so tired all the time he wasn't getting much action from me. I then realized that he was partly right. With all the new office work and commute our sex life had taken a backseat. But that doesn't give him the right to abuse our marriage. I then told him how abused I felt and how he had broken my trust in him. He started to apologize and got down from the table and knelt down and said that he was very sorry and that he was ready to do anything I told.
I got up and said " I will think about it"

I came to my room and again shut the door. I opened his laptop and checked the history. He was right, the porn sites went back 2 months. I then went through the sites and mostly was vanilla porn but one site caught my eye "sheisincharge.blogspot.in/" . I clicked on the link and read the description and it said something about a submissive husband and his desire to submit to and obey his wife. I was a little confused however decided to give it a read anyway. The more I read the more intrigued I was. In the next 3-4 hrs I realized that if I had to save my marriage I had to do it myself and now I knew how to do it.

I came out of the room in the evening and went to the sofa and sat down. Adi followed me there and kept quiet. I told him to sit down and that I had a few questions. I asked him about the blog that I had found and he said that he had clicked on it as it had a catchy title but hadn't gone beyond that. I then told him that if he truly seeks my forgiveness he will do everything I tell him to do now onwards no questions asked. He immediately said yes. I asked that he should wait a little and hear me out first.
I got a little nervous but then realized that there was no chickening out
Then I listed the 5 basic rules
1) He will always love me but now also start to obey me.
2) He will do all the housework. I will try to share but in the end it is his job and his responsibility
3) He will never masturbate again without my permission
4) He will go down on me without any hesitation anytime I ask
5) I reserve the right to punish him

In short I said that from now on I am the leader of this house and that I wear the pants in this family. I then got even more confident and asked him that if he agrees to my conditions he can give his acceptance by bowing down and kissing my feet.

All the while Adi had a blank look on his face. He was I guess taken aback with all the things I had just said. A minute or 2 passed but it felt like eternity. I started to get a little jittery and thought maybe it was too much too soon and that Adi will refuse. Finally Adi knelt down. He first kissed one foot and then the other. I told him to do it once more and he did it again. I felt a tingle of excitement run through my body. I liked the feeling and decided to go a step further . I asked Adi to get up and get naked. He was confused but started to take of his clothes. I told him as a punishment for today he will remain naked. As he dropped down his underwear I found that he had a partial erection which growing bigger by the second. I was surprised but then realized that maybe all this humiliation is was turning him on as well. I felt an electric current run through my body. I asked Adi to go down on me. He hesitated but then again knelt down. I removed my panties and told him to start. He started tentatively but as his tongue explored my lips I shuddered. He was good at it now or maybe I had taught him well. He knew where to lick & when to withdraw. He teased me a little by withdrawing his head and I grabbed his hair with both my hands and pushed him inside. This time he attacked and in no time I was in the chores of ecstasy. Finally when it subsided he got up and I kissed him on the lips sharing my pussy with him and told him

"I LOVE You Adi"

Till Later
Pooja

P.S. - Would love to hear some comments as it will give me encouragement. Otherwise  I feel like a fool sharing my story without any reciprocation.

11 comments:

  1. Congratulations on having the courage to take the lead. And thank you for sharing your story. You may have noticed but so few women blog on this topic, which is a pity because we all need role models when exploring change. I hope you have found the happiness you deserve with your obedient husband ad I look forward to learning how you trained him to serve you.

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    1. Thanks for taking time out and posting. Yes I agree not a lot many female perspective out there. My husband and I have been lucky and had to reinvent the wheel so to say. Yes, with the background story out of the way I will be posting more on the current state.The rules he follows, his routine and other stuff. Keep Reading !!

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  2. Thanks for sharing your story. It always refreshing to hear from the woman leader in the relationship. RR

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  3. I believe, Pooja, one of the take-away points here is that men's minds easily wander. Often - but not always - it is the man who becomes bored with his spouse and looks to porn for a way to fill the void. You did the right thing. I am sure it was hard, and thankfully Adi had clicked on that domme/submissive site to give you some needed information. You expressed your thoughts, concerns and issues maturely and addressed each appropriately. I love reading your story.

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  4. Nice writing. You should start writing book on female lead marriage.

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  5. A wonderful narration of your epiphany. You showed the courage to make it happen. May you enjoy a long wife led marriage.

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  6. Hi Pooja I've just discovered your blog. I am the original author of sheisincharge.blogspot, now deleted. I was both amazed and very pleased that my own writings and experiences have inspired you to take control in your marriage and for your husband to start submitting himself to you. I look forward to hearing how your story develops. But i must confess that I have always had a "thing" about an indian wife dominating her husband, hope that's OK lol I'd love to hear from you ar sheisincharge@hotmail.co.uk

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  7. Dear Pooja:

    Thank you for your brilliant post. I am a progressive wife who lives in New York City, and I too first became interested in female-led relationships when I saw the history on my husband's computer. About three years ago I purchased a full metal jacket chastity belt from Steelwerks (see http://www.steelwerksextreme.com/male-chastity-device/solid-classic-chastity-cage), which my slave-husband wears with a Prince Albert piercing.

    He is released infrequently, about four times a year, except for bathing, which I supervise. He isn't allowed to bathe without me, and I don't allow him to eat unless I am present, which keeps him in in better shape than ever before.

    Drinking is out of the question. We both work, but he does all the housework, maintains the car, does all the mundane grocery shopping and chores, and uses any free time to assist me in my career.

    Having my husband as a part-time administrative assistant and household servant has increased my productivity and enabled me to get two promotions, whereas he is still at the same level at work as he was three years ago. As a result, my earnings more than double his, but I am uncomfortable with his staying home full-time, as it would give him too much free time. At present, he works or does chores during all his waking hours. He thanks me each morning by kissing my feet before we leave the house.

    I have taken a lover, so I am out of the house several evenings a week while he does chores. On the weekends we dine out, or he prepares dinner.

    I have found that his ingestion of my fluids, to include sweat from my feet and armpits, my spit mixed with his food, and drinking my urine several times a week contributes to breaking his will. I have also associated pain with affection, comingling the two, so he receives a welt or harsh ball squeeze for each kiss or fondle, and I typically alternate the two.

    Since he is in permanent chastity, I enjoy fondling his chastity belt and stroking his testacles while i watch television. i will typically whip him before the movie starts, and then he will lick and suck me when it ends.

    He no longer looks at pornography (and in fact has no access to the computer while at home). Likewise, his small paycheck is deposited in my account, and I give him a small allowance. Unlike other couples, I now rarely ask his advice when I makeinvestments or major purchases. I have given him a two thousand dollar checking account that he is not allowed to use, except in case of emergency. I tend to prefer female professionals, such as investment brokers and auto sales people. If he comes along when I meet with the professional, I have him sit quietly and take notes while I negotiate with the professional.

    Not only has his attitude improved: He is quite grateful to me, even for having a lover, and he strives at all times to please me. He is always cheerful and obsequious.

    Best,

    Janet

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  8. u should have bought a male chastity belt for Adi. No male can go a few days without masturbation.

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