I am thinking of making some rules/guidelines that Adi will have to follow in the house going forward. I have a general idea but would want some suggestions (innovative ones) for tasks & punishments to make it interesting and unexpected for him. Should have a humiliation aspect and should reinforce the message as to who is the boss in this relationship..Please send ur suggestions .
Luv Pooja
Luv Pooja
I think you should take your control to an even higher level. Adi should be made to ask permission to urinate or defecate. He should be made to use a separate toilet. Sometimes you can make him sweat it out before giving permission or make him kneel or lick your feet .
ReplyDeleteSimilarly hecshould always follow you to the toilet. Let him lick you clean after you pass urine. For bowel movements he may be allowed to use toilet paper except on rare occasions when you may make him use his tongue. All thevtime to ensure he does a good job make him clean you with his tongue after the toilet paper.
Humiliate him in front of a relative. Allow them to see him hanwashing your lingerie. Do something totally unexpected like blow your nose and feed him your snot.
WOW !!! This is taking it too far .. I think pissing is fine but I am definitely into scat.. That is plain gross.. He is my husband and not some slave...I think you need to be careful before posting such ideas !!!
DeleteAgree, the writer of the above is a pervert.
Deletesome general rules can be:- having his pubic hair shaved off,his dick balls ass clean..no hair..,keping him nude all the time at home ( or whenever you want as its winter),...kissing your feet whenever you come back home from office...doing housework...handwashing your clothes,especially bra panties...asking you to use bathroom..give you water,tea whatever you want when you come back home..
ReplyDeletepunishments can be:- apart from faceslapping you do...spanking his ass can be done....murga punishment ( in nude) for some time (15-20 minutes)...not leting him cum sometime, or if let him cum then make him eat it,like making him cum on you and then make him lick it..or cum in a container or any utensil then lick it from there..litle crossdressing can be done, especially making him wear panties at home or to office...making him masturbate and you you watch him.....
make him nude and jump, and make various poses....make him play with his dick and balls....tell him to be in various humiliating positions like bend over,spread hisasscheeks, finger himself...
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These are some nice ideas especially the shaving his dick one. That one has clicked instantly and will be implemented for sure.. Others are good too..Cum eating is still an unexplored area and I can foresee some resistance there. Also I am not sure he will agree to finger himself :-) but I like the idea very much...Thanks for the pointers ..Keep Posting..
DeleteThanks that you liked it..i myself dont like extreme things and they shouldnt be done...and i had already said regarding cum eating in the previous post that '' that next time time is not going to be easy for him ''...so i know there will be resistance..but you can start slowly,wit litle small drop once then after that as you wish...same thinng is there regrading fingering....its new thing ,so ther will be resistance but from inside he like it..otherwise you can start while making love, while playing with each other ...after that its upto you. but i know he will like it....overall i would say many things are new for both of you,try to explore while making love..go slow..and enjoy..
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Whatever you choose I hope that love, care and devotion TO HIM is a part of your punishments/expectations. Rembember, you don't want him to shut down and close you out of his life by overwhelming him. He is your husband and not some dog. He may someday be he father of your children and not a guy you have investment in. Some of the suggestions here are just plain gross. Licking your ass is so unhealthy. Healthcare people where gloves for a reason when having to be around fecal matter. Choose carefully.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree to what you have said...The idea of these rules and punishment is to get a framework of our marriage but at the end of day it is also to increase the love we have for each other. Now as it has been established that I love to dominate and Adi loves to be dominated I want to explore some areas so that I can establish the boundaries. I love my husband very much and would do nothing to jeopardize the relationship we have. We still have some times where I like to be the giver and pamper the hell out of him and he enjoys that too ..But at the end of the day we know what kind of personalities we have and want to go back to that and have some fun with it too.. Yesterday I am pretty sure Adi didn't like to humiliated but now he likes it . Don't know what tomorrow beckons for us..We still have a long way to go and will learn as we go...Thanks again for the nice advice ..
Deletecompletely agree with you..correct..you love to dominate and he loves to be dominated is absolutely correct..i liked what all you said...nice .
DeleteHe is right, should not act as submissive, should live as one, let him do all the works 24/7, he will enjoy that, let him scare of you, do slap him on the face whenever required, make him comb your hair, shave you, make up everything for you, let him eat after you eat, take him to your mother's house and make him serve her, make him clean her house and wash her cloths, let your mother think it is natural to order him around, slap him before your mother also, may your mother ask you to send him atleast weekly once to clean her house and do her laundry, please write your exp after taking him to your mom's house once, thank you,,
ReplyDeleteI don't think if I introduce my mother into the picture that our marriage will survive. My parents are fine as long as I dominate him implicitly but explicitly will be taking it too far..I liked some of the other ideas
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I view female dominance as intimacy and sexual activity by other means. That means that the specific activities that you and Adi will find attractive will be specific to each of you. For example, you have written about golden showers several times. If this is something that excites you (it helps if it excites Adi, too), then it should be something that you do regularly. You could make it a ritual; for example, your first pee every morning could be a golden shower.
ReplyDeleteI think that submissive personal rituals are important. Simple acts that he must do all the time. For example, he must dress and undress you. He must attend you in the bathroom, perhaps licking you clean (pee only, of course!). He must kneel beside you while you eat dinner. He must bath you. And of course, he provides you with sexual pleasure whenever you want. This is different from any housework you require, since it is intimacy between the two of you.
As for housework, how much do you want him to do?
I do think it is useful to have the submissive male take on a humiliating persona with clothing to match. He could be your wife, your maid, your infant, your naked devotee. Which again depends on what works for both of you. If you a repelled by the idea of him wearing panties or if he feels no humiliation, then its not a good idea for you. However, I can tell you from personal experience that it really does reenforce a submissive mindset and it can be something he does 24/7. One other idea would be to require him to wear a sanitary pad throughout the time you have your period each month.
One of the other readers suggested having him serve your mother. Involving another person must be done carefully -- since submission is intimacy by another means, how many other women would want to be involved? If you do find someone, then that can be a great means of reenforcing and deepening his submission. One thing you could do is tell your maid that she can give Adi tasks, but again, this is something that must be approached carefully with sensitivity to her feelings and possible reactions. I would be careful with Neha; she sounds preditory.
Chastity devices seem to be so common in female dominant relationships that they are almost expected. Have you considered them?
From what I understand of traditional Indian cultures, many had rules for women that were humiliating and restrictive for women. The title of your blog is role reversal. What could be more appropriate for Adi than expecting him to live by some of the rules Indian women have had to live by for generations?
The Devotional Sex webpage may give you lots of ideas on ways to tease him.
I really enjoy your blog, and look forward to hearing what rules you decide upon and how they work out.
Agree with what ever you said ...good ideas too...and iam also looking forward for what rules mam decides and how they work out..
DeleteThis is a really great comment with some very useful ideas. I liked the idea that female dominance is intimacy by other means. I agree with that philosophy..I agree that getting mother into this will be tricky and potentially fatal for my marriage. I am still coming to terms with my dominance. I get that sudden rush of power that I want to exploit but at the same time boundaries need to be maintained. Housework is an area where I am still struggling to find a balance. I want him to take more work but don't want to overburden him as well. Using maid as a medium mentioned before can backfire and I don't want that.
DeleteSanitary pad is a new one and I am still thinking if I can use that one but yes I have decided that he will be naked in my presence or just in his panties. Also I like dress and undress part and I am going to use that. Chastity Devices & Strapon are not something available in India and I guess they are banned as well.
I really enjoyed your comment and would request you to append an initial at bottom in future so that I can distinguish your posts.
Luv Pooja
If u want to really try chastity Devices and StrapOn they are now available in India too. just need to search in right place and no they are not illegal to use but it is illegal to display publicly
Deleteyes he is right, we can give the duties of the traditional wife's in indian culture, like he should wake before his wife, after bathing touch his wife's feet on his eyes to get her blessing, after getting blessing from her wife he can start his duty, always call her with respect not using her name, only eat the leftover after she finished eating, do fasting for his wife's welth and helth, taking her name and many more.....
ReplyDeleteI agree with touching my feet. He needs to do that
Deleteyes, good ideas, especially considering the name of blog as 'rolereversal' ,it can be considered ..finally its upto mam, lets see what she decides..
ReplyDeleteMorning when you wake up he should be ready with bed coffee, Next he should get your breakfast ready , get your clothes pressed and make sure your car is cleaned before you leave for office. When you come back from work he should welcome you by washing your legs in warm water and drink it as a matter of respect.Give you toe nails , make sure he serves as your make up boy .
ReplyDeleteWhen you go for movie or any Mall ,make him dress in traditional Indian Kurta and covered fully wherecas you look completely mod.
He should be like a slave holding your shopping bags ,cleaning your sandals and giving relaxing massage before and after shopping.
When you are at home ask him to pick your feet and you ignore him completely for 20-30 min without even responding to him.
When you are talking in phone make sure he is sitting beside you and licking your legs
When you are watching your favorite program ask him to do your toe nails
How a dog lace around his neck every time when you are in home .
Train him to respond to your finger n eye movements, you will never utter a word and he will always face ground with his head bowing down and never have eye contact with you.
If you smoke ask him to lit your cigars and of you enjoy beer ask him to lick your shoes when you enjoy your drink
When you go to pubs ask him to stick with juices where as you enjoy drink.
Ask him to come up with new punishment by this way you know what he enjoys ,give him those punishments
Like old Indian tradition he should wear kurta in home ,wear Mangalam sutra ,sindoor and also put rangoli every morning
Ms Pooja,
ReplyDeleteI am always struck by the difference between male fantasy female domination and what seems -- from the blogs that seem to be from real couples -- to be the focus on love and sharing in successful female led marriages. I'm thinking of Femdom 101 or I'm Hers or A Spanking Marriage. I am happy to see that you seem to be approaching the beginnings of your domination and submission through love.
You asked for humiliating punishment ideas. That would seem to depend a great deal on what you and he view as humiliating. For a man who wants to cross dress, for example, being punished by being required to wear women's clothing is a reward, not a punishment. Some areas you may want to explore are punishments usually given to children (corner time, mouth soaping, early bed time), loss of privileges or activities he enjoys (no watching racing for a month), writing lines, menial tasks (clearing the floor multiple times in a row), and the loss of the right to serve you for a time.
I am always wary of public humiliation on two counts. One, it can really humiliate and hurt him at a level that breaks his trust in you and therefore changes how he feels about you. And two, the other people who are exposed to his humiliation may really not prefer to be exposed to that intimate part of your life any more than they would want to see a couple have sex in public. I think that in public the subtle risk of exposure could be more powerful than the actual exposure. If you do all the ordering in a restaurant, there is that hint of dominance and his worry that the waiter or waitress will figure out what is going on. The same if he must walk behind you. If he wears a bra under his shirt, no one is likely to notice, but he will be afraid that they might.
You and he are in the early stages of exploration where everything seems new and is therefore exciting. I think it may take time for you to find the lasting rituals and habits that make this long lasting. Five years from now, do you think it will mean more to you that he dresses you or that he polishes all your pairs of shoes. If the former, then you may settle on a relationship with him as your personal devotee; the the latter then with him as more of a maid.
You asked in the response to a previous post that I use an initial for my posts, and I'll use 'M'
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DeleteAgain an excellent comment !! Yes, I agree that what one finds humiliating might not be the same for another person. For now I am exploring the various aspects of his psyche but on a general level anytime there is a shift of power from him to me I know he feels tormented. I know this is long process and that is why I dont want to barrage him with a lot of things at one go. Want to take it slow and and based on his response calibrate things and introduce new ones. One example is he a a avid gamer and loves his PS3. Till now only weekends was the only time he was not allowed to touch it. Rest of days I was fairly easy on him. I think I know taking away his gaming privileges is going to be hard on him. So I am still keeping that one in the box. Also starting to establish the dominant/submissive dynamic in marriage is very difficult, since you’re trying to break all kinds of old, hardened habits. So I am going to take it one step at a time and see how it goes ..
Again thanks for ur valuable comments
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