The main purpose of starting this blog was to share the not so common lifestyle that me and my husband share. At the same time another important reason was to interact with other couples/individuals who share the same ideology. However since I have been back from the break the response has been dull. I have rec'd only comments from 1 individual and emails from 1 more. This is shocking and disappointing.. Without feedback and interaction this is just like an erotic story or worst a monologue. Not sure what I need to do differently to spice up the blog and kickstart some more comments
Any ideas !!!
Any ideas !!!
I've read your posts with interest..
ReplyDeleteRegarding your question, I really can't say..although if you also follow other blogs that may increase the responses to you..
In the blogs I read there the responses are generally from a few regulars with the addition of a few others from time to time..��
I very much like to read of your lifestyle..
I really enjoy your blog, and I'm sure many others do too. You just need to invite comments as you did here and they will come back to you. Thanks for writing!
ReplyDeleteyes i always read and comment on the blog and i like this blog..i think people do read the blog, some comments, some dont..i thought people may be interacting with you on email if they not commenting here..keep on sharing and updating the blog comments will definitely come.
ReplyDeleteTwo thoughts on your blog....
ReplyDelete1. Spicing up a blog by bringing your readers into your bedroom, sex life and other intimate parts of life isn't always necessary to get readers to comment. Obviously you spilled the beans in your story about your friend and Adi and only got a few comments. I bet you had hundreds or readers but they didn't want to take the time to comment. I guess that's the kind of reader you have - all take and no give.
Second, you asked the question about what to do about the elephant in the room..... I'd tell Adi to refuse to submit to your girlfriend. What's she going to do yell at him. Why don't you give him permission to yell back and why don't you join him in doing so? Why are you so afraid - stand up for you man for god's sake. If you're the dominant you say you are then stake your claim and own it.
Personally I think you opened the door to nothing but trouble when you gave her permission to take control of him. Sometimes you need to make tough decisions and regain what you lost and do what you must.... or just don't let her into your home. Problem solved. I wish you well as you sort through the issues you need to consider but consider what is most important to you and ignore all the social pressures and do what is right.
That is an interesting observation. Regarding ur first observation , yes I had reservations about sharing the more private details at first but then I decided if I have to write I cannot be selective. (I am using Pseudonyms for some of the names to protect the identities). These details are not there titillate or provide fodder to the perverts for their fantasies and that is why I was disappointed with the type of readers. However at the same time I realized that I need to look in the mirror before passing judgement. How many times have I went and posted on other couple's blogs. Rarely. Then what right do I have to feel disappointment on there not being many replies to my posts. Lesson Learnt !!!
DeleteYour second observation is even more interesting and believe you me I must have thought of doing the same 100 times but we have a beautiful friendship and I dont want to jeopardize that. Moreover as I said earlier at times I enjoy all the stuff she does to Adi and there is a sexual tension that is so hot that it is the perfect foreplay to our time together alone. I do feel intimidated by Neha but in a good way I feel. Maybe I like the dynamic we have ...
Anyways I really appreciate u taking ur time out and sharing the thoughts.. Please continue to do the same in future
Get your blog linked from other blogs. That often exposes yours to others who are of the same mind. You can also start a fetlife page. Then make friends and put links to your page from there.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your story so far. i find it much more fascinating and insightful to hear from a woman's point of view. i had a rather poor experience with trying female dominance in my first marriage. IT was a combination of her not excepting it and my behavior trying to feel a large need in me . The need i believe was hard wired in me also. Because the Mrs was very good at it when she got into then rejected it and felt guilt it created a insecurity in me causing me to need reassurance that my partner did truly wish this and was doing for her own pleasure.
ReplyDeleteNow same poster as to whether you should allow Neeha to expand her place to include sexual activities i agree with previous posters that you need to make the choice on what you feel is comfortable. Making small steps and setting clear boundaries that can expand or shrink as you see fit and only if your enjoy it for yourself and not out of feeling an obligation due to your friendship
ReplyDeleteHello Miss Pooja
ReplyDeleteJust recently found your blog by searching about FLR relations in India & I am so glad to find that people like you like to share your personal experience and can be inspiration for other who want to start this type of life style.
Thanks & please continue blogging more about your lifestyle.
Hi Miss Pooja,
ReplyDeleteI am also a submissive and currently in Delhi. I do have a gf and i am also looking for the same lifestyle, i really want to talk to you and Adi both about the practical reality. My email is akaboiled@gmail.com. If possible can we all meet in real?
Regards,
Akash Jain