What's in a name ?

Yesterday I was watching a rerun of the famous Games of Thrones Season 4 (readers who haven't seen GOT, would recommend it strongly ) and I saw a character called Theon Greyjoy who is captured by Ramsay Bolton and tortured to a point where he is emasculated , his will broken and he just becomes a slave to Ramsay and doesn't escape his captivity even when given an opportunity to !!

Well I don't say that I want to break Adi's will the way they depicted in GOT as that is just not my style but what struck was the name Ramsay gives to Theon at the end of the torture, "REEK".

From then on whenever Ramsay said "Reek" , Theon's response was that of a slave.

And then an idea clicked, I have no specific name for Adi when we are in the zone alone and even when I am humiliating him I just use abuse words like "A**h***" or its Hindi equivalent "G***U".

I thought we should have a name that as soon as I call it Adi should leave everything and get into the zone. A name that when called means I am assuming the dominant role and he is just a sub.

But what could be that name ??? I tried thinking but cannot conjure something that is a home run..

So I am asking my readers for a name for my husband that he is worthy (or unworthy) enough.

Also on the same lines I want a name for myself that he should call me by when I use his new name.

I don't want the run of the mill stuff like "Slave, Slut, Mistress, Queen or Ma'am".

Something different and unique

Can you help ??

Till Later
Luv Pooja

Subtle Domination - Drinking

As mentioned in my previous post there are times when you don't have to be over the top with ur actions to show that you are the boss. Sometimes small gestures go a long way to enforce that I rule Adi's world and that he needs to defer to me for all his decisions.  Let me demonstrate with an example.

Adi & myself both enjoy to have a drink or 2 on occasions. He has been an active drinker through his college days and knows how to hold one . Infact he told me once that his batch mates used to call him a "Tanker" which meant he has humongous capacity. While he enjoys his hard core Old Monk I am more of an occasional drinker enjoying my wine and cocktails and sometimes Bacardi Breezer or vodka . While I am not a heavy drinker I can hold my own in front of Adi. We have had a lot of parties at our place where we all lay wasted after all night drinking sessions.

However the problem comes when we have to go out. Now while I enjoy to drive I rarely allow myself behind the wheel after a couple of drinks. Before we had FLR this was always a pain point as more often than not I had to sacrifice and be the designated driver between the two of us.

Well not anymore !! This new year's we had a mega party planned at a friend's farmhouse in Mehrauli. On the way Adi was excited as he was going to meet a lot of old friends and they had plans to drink the place down. Well surprise Adi. While I was driving to the party I calmly told Adi that he is going to be the designated driver for the journey back. I could see the blood drain from his face. I knew he wanted to protest but was conflicted. Instead he went quiet. I waited for a min or 2 and then remarked " What hapd Adi . Cat got ur tongue ?". He kept quiet. So I teased him further " I think you should be happy that I am giving you a chance to sacrifice something for my happiness. Shouldn't you ?". He replied " Yes, Pooja. I am happy" . Rest of the drive was spent in silence with me smiling and Adi sulking quietly.

Well the party was a blur as I had a blast getting wasted. Adi was allowed only 2 Pegs and had to spend rest of the night drinking Red Bull. When the party ended, Adi drove me back but I could feel that while I was still smiling Adi too had a changed demeanour. No longer was he sulking but had a contend smile on his face. When we reached home Adi quickly got out and ran to my side to open the door. As I pushed my feet out of the door. Adi bowed down and kissed my boots and said  " Thanks Pooja for giving me this chance. Seeing you so happy has made my day". Hearing that I felt proud of myself . I was pretty drunk but in my senses to see that it was quite a major achievement in our relationship.

As we went inside I settled into the sofa and asked Adi to get a bottle of Bacardi from the kitchen. Adi was confused as I was already pretty drunk. but complied. As he came back I saw he had the bottle and two glasses. I told him we wont be needing the glasses. I asked him to give me the bottle and remove my shoes. As it was December I was wearing my ankle high boots. Adi removed the right one first and then the sock. I asked him to then lie down on his back. under my feet. When he settled down I opened the bottle I placed my big toe inside his mouth and let the bacardi flow. I had seen a scene in a movie with Salma Hayek and I had replicated the same. Well movie and reality are different and drinking neat on the flow is not really that easy and Adi started to cough after a initial sip or two and splash was making the carpet all wet. So I stopped and improvised. I picked my boot and poured the Bacardi inside and handed it over to Adi. He knew what needed to be done. He brought boot to his lips and started to drink. Well this made me very horny inspite of being drunk. Adi was sitting cross- legged in front of me and I started to mash his crotch with my right foot. I told him to stop and get naked. Well he complied in a flash and then I resumed playing with his dick with my foot while he drank his fill. When he was done I got up and asked him to bring a towel. I removed my jeans and panties and then laid down the towel and lied down. I then poured some Bacardi on my pussy and it tingled. I then commanded " Lick It" and Adi drove right in with all his excitement. I was already so wet and orgasmed in no time. I then asked Adi to clean up while I went into the bed room for my sleep. 

So what started as a small gesture of FLR ended with a full blown orgasm for me and we both were happy and the relationship progressed a lot forward. 

What do my readers have to say ? Do you any such subtle gestures that put you or ur husbands in a complete trance ?

Do Share

Till Later

Luv Pooja

Recap to the year gone by !!

It is exactly to this date that I started this blog last year so in a way it is my blog-anniversary and I guess it is the perfect time to take a pause and see how this blog has progressed. 

To summarize ,1 Year ,30 posts , 200 comments and 30,000 views later I think we have come a long way but have an even longer journey ahead of us. When I started writing the only goal in my mind was to share what we had and maybe get the reassurance that we are a normal couple and not some freaks out there trying things that are against the laws of nature. However given the love I have received on this blog I can safely say that I am more confident on the journey we have undertaken.

I would like thank all the readers for their valuable feedback and guidance on the nuanced relationship Adi and myself have. While majority of the comments have been shared under Anonymous there are few people who I like to give explicit thanks to for being there through the year and hope they continue with me in times to come

sameer kummr
MR BILL
Rohit malhotra
mervyco

I'm-Hers
ThoughtsBehindMyThoughts
My Heart's Desire (The first comment )

Also a special shout goes to the Anonymous Blogger -M who has understood me more than anyone else (maybe you know me better than myself). Haven't heard from you in a while so I hope you will be back to post ur valuable comments soon.

I would also want to give thanks to some blogs that I follow for advice and guidance. They have been an inspiration and I hope they continue to share more insights on their respective FLR in years to come

im-hers.blogspot.com/

slaveofmistress-s.blogspot.com/

sheisincharge.blogspot.com/

slowwatersrundeep.blogspot.com/

journeyintowlm.blogspot.com/

rwddh.blogspot.com/

Will be posting again soon with a new post on Subtle Domination series.

Till Later

Luv Pooja

Subtle Domination - Cricket

When I started this blog one of the main objectives was to share thoughts on a marriage where the relationship is more female led in the real world. I say more because an absolute female led marriage is a myth. Most of the blogs that I read earlier advocate  a "whips and chains" type of 24/7 relationship which in the real world might work for a short time but in a long run is unsustainable and will fizzle out eventually. I learnt the same the hard way and had to take steps back to ensure that me and my husband have a long and fulfilling life. We are husband and wife for most of the times and  a master and slave only when necessary. I am not here to break my husband and crush his will.

However what I do need is a husband who puts my interests first before his. It is a simple need and one that Adi has to accept voluntarily that I come first every-time even when that might be opposite of what he wants.Once that is achieved I don't have to draw elaborate plans and schemes.

There are subtle things that he has to do through the days that remind him of his place. At times I need to and do reinforce my domination through punishment or just because I want to. However those times are limited and infrequent. If I go hammers and tongs with a dominatrix attitude all the time it will drive a wedge between our marriage pretty soon. The small things I test him with and his sacrifices to keep me at a pedestal increase my love for him and vice versa. Let me elaborate you with an example.
India is a cricket crazy nation and that craziness percolates to my husband as well. To gauge his craziness he is one of those who rose at 3 AM to watch those matches in Australia and that too on my terms. Last year I had put a limit to his cricket watching but then well last month the World Cup started. Adi and I had a discussion and we decided that if he has to earn watching the matches he needs to give something back. I told him I will decide what that would be and he will have no say in it, For match 1 (India- Pak) , I told him he will have forego his orgasm and throw the dice again to get a new number. He was already on Day 5 and so had a huge risk to take but he had no choice and threw a 7 so had to a week more. Well as it happened the Match 2 ( India - SA) coincided with his orgasm day. So I told him that he will have a ruined one if he wants to watch the match. He had a conundrum but eventually gave in and I had fun ruining his orgasm. Now here is where the devil in me rises. The match started early morning 9 AM or so and Adi has to watch all the matches wearing my used panties from the last day. I think it was India who batted first and when I woke I saw Adi watching a Dhawan nearing a century that I started to get kinky. I told Adi to get between my legs under the blanket and lick me. Adi looked at me but had no choice. He immediately dove in and made me come in record time all the while with me humiliating him that I was watching the match while he could just listen to my taunts. I then removed his panties and shoved them in his mouth and asked him to lie down. I started to tease his cock with my mouth and brought him closer. When I sensed he was about to come I used to withdraw and start all over again in 2 mins. This went on for a good 20 mins while India completed its innings. Finally I stroked him till he started to spasm at which  I let go of his cock and held his hands tightly on bed while he struggled. Now I am strong enough to keep Adi pinned down for the precious moments while he spurted. His face became red and he could see the wide smile on my face.  I then asked him to clean up and rewind the match to watch what he missed. He in turn thanked me by kissing my feet.
Remaining India group matches were insignificant so the sacrifices were small as well. For one he had to make me orgasm 3 times with his tongue. For another one he had to polish all my shoes and sandals and lick them. Then came the big 2 - Quarterfinal vs Bangladesh. I knew it was on a workday so I told Adi that he can take a off. I had no intention of doing so whatever I had to do was to happen before the match. We were in the kitchen preparing dinner the night before the match that I told Adi that he will have to get a Golden Shower if he wants to watch this match. Now Adi hated the last time I did it as a punishment and has dreaded it since, Seeing his reaction I thought he might even let go of the match even but then the cricket fan in him rose and he reluctantly agreed. I upped the stakes - I told him that he has to beg me for the shower now. Adi looked at me pleadingly but then went on his knees and started to plead " Can I watch the match please" . I tormented him " And what would you do to get that privilege  ?" . He replied "Anything" . I smirked. " Well that is a nice answer but not the one I am looking for ". He mumbled and said " Can you please piss on me " I barked " Ask nicely "  He then said "Can you please please piss on me " I then grabbed him by his hair and dragged him to bathroom and asked him to remove his clothes. He did that and went to tub. I then asked him to kneel, Removed my pyjamas and panties and got behind him and let a stream out. The first impact was on his back and I aimed towards the back of his head. Once I was done I ordered him to turn around and lick me clean. He did and thanked me properly and we went back to our routine world.

Now I could have been a cruel wife and refused him to watch the matches at all and I am sure Adi would have agreed instead I used the daily life opportunities to really push our boundaries. I liked Adi sacrificing all that for me and he agrees that all these makes him value our relationship even more.

What do you guys have to say about it ?

Till Later
Luv Pooja

Note: I know I left the Semi-Final out as it warrants a post of its own

I am a BITCH !!!

Mostly when we want to degrade a woman we label her as a BITCH.  It is an insult used for a woman who is unreasonable, malicious, a control freak and aggressive. It is also used to allay the impression for a woman having high sexual energy. 

Well I have to say that I am most of that and even more. I have an ACRONYM for B.I.T.C.H. and it stands for  Bride In Total Control of Husband.

So yes, I am a BITCH and a proud one for that matter. I ensure that Adi has to cater to my reasonable side but be ready to fulfil my unreasonable demands. Recently during a extended sex session where I was teasing the hell out of Adi and he was groaning wildly making all types of sounds that I had a wild idea. I told him that from now on he is not allowed to make any sound till he comes. If he makes even a squeal or a groan we will stop and he loose his chance to orgasm. The look on his face was priceless , his eyes pleading but I was unrelenting. So off we went for another 15 mins with Adi turning red from all the pleasure but no way to release it. While he was quite I started verbally teasing him by calling him humiliating things. This made me more wet and we both went at it with renewed vigour. Once he came, the scream he made must have woken the neighbours. Afterwards he remarked that I can be a devil and I replied "You bet I am the devil ".
So was my demand unreasonable. Maybe Yes, but it elevated a regular sex session to an awesome one for both Adi and myself and that is the goal. Adi even thanked me by kissing my feet which he rarely does after having sex. So maybe my being a BITCH was a good thing after all 

It kept the fires burning for both of us !!!

So do you readers like the new acronym.. Do comment !!!

Till Later
Luv Pooja

I AM BACK !!!

The first post of 2015  !!!

Had never thought that it would take me so much time to get back to blogging !!

I had planned to take a week's break after the vacation and then the week just got extended and I procrastinated after that. It seems that after a while you miss that connection and get busy with other stuff and so even when you have time you delay the inevitable. 

Not Anymore !!!

I plan to be regular on my blog and my fellow readers. (Well its not that I was missed that much ..Only a couple of loyal readers inquired :-)) 

First things first... Adi is fine and our relationship has now settled into a rhythm barring some minor hiccups here and there..We have settled into a nice routine where I am slowly and steadily increasing Adi's day to day work responsibilities. With more work at office I am coming home late almost on a daily basis and Adi is taking over more cooking at night as the maid is not around for evening meals by the time we both come back. 

Weekends are more fun with me having some playtime with Adi and we have devised some new ones that keep us both sexually charged.. Of course I get the relief almost every other day with Adi and his mouth better and making best friends with my pussy. Adi has been on rationed orgasms since our anniversary and I have devised a simple method for that. 

I told Adi that from now on he has to earn his orgasms but since we don't have a mechanism in place I am leaving it to luck. He was confused and then I explained that we will be using dice to come up with his orgasm schedule. I told that number he got on the dice is the number of days between his orgasms. He was initially relieved and thought at max he would have to go 6 days before he cums but then I poured ice water on his relief by informing him that I would be using 2 dices instead of one.

Also I explained that as it happens in real life if he throws 2 sixes he will have to throw again and that his next throw will be added to 12 to get the number of days. Now I could see some concern on his face but I assured him that this was all right and necessary. 

So on his first throw on 12/11 he  got a 8 which was close to his maximum abstinence till then. Meanwhile I had no such limitations so I used Adi's tongue to get my share of orgasms. A couple of times I asked Adi to enter me but warned him not to come. He couldn't go more than a 2-3 minutes and so I had to fall back on his tongue. On 12/19  I could see Adi excited about what was to come. I teased him the whole day by sending remarks like  " I am going to fuck ur brains out Adi and then you will beg me for release " . I sent him photo of my panties and I knew Adi was frustrated beyond belief and all the teasing was making me horny as well.. As it was a Friday I knew I will be able to get home early. I came back before Adi, had a nice bath and changed into my sexy red robe. 

When Adi got home he was surprised to find me home and even more surprised to find me in my robe sitting in the living room on our couch. As he began to sit down I ordered him to go upstairs and have bath and then come down. When Adi entered the bathroom I brought out my purple panties and laid them on the bed and removed his underwear. I then came back to the living room and started reading a book. After a while Adi came out wearing shorts and a T-Shirt with a sheepish grin on his face. I asked him kneel in front of the couch. As he knelt I inquired if he got my present and he replied " Yes Ma'am". I then told him that today we will be ordering pizza so we don't have to cook, I then asked as to what was so special about today and he started to turn red and then said " Today is my turn". I teased him " Turn for what  ?".  He was now feeling shy to admit so I teased him more. I started to talk dirty to him and then I grabbed his hair and yanked them back and got in his face and told him "Today I am going to FUCK you ADI that is what is going to happen TODAY but before any of that happens let me get this straight that you need to earn ur fucking and ur time starts now. Between now and 12 PM if you are able to satisfy me I will decide if you get ur orgasm or not " I then let go of his hair and barked " Now get ur clothes off and don't wear them till I ask you too . You need to be in ur panties while you please me. " Adi quickly rose and removed his Shirt and Shorts and folded them. I then thrust my feet forward and Adi immediately understood what needs to be done and got busy massaging them and kissing them. He spent a good 30 minutes there when I abruptly rose and asked him to take care of the pizza while I watched the TV. He ordered the pizza from Dominos while I lay on the bed relaxing. I then asked Adi that now he has 30 minutes to bring me to an orgasm with his tongue. If the Pizza comes before he can forget about his gratification today. Adi quickly dived between my legs guzzling my thighs with sweet warm kisses and I knew that it won't be difficult for him to beat the clock today. I was anyway super horny and in no time Adi had me in throes of pleasure . He quickly lapped up the juices as I lay in a daze. After we had the pizza I asked Adi to come to bed and we started to watch TV with me in his arms playing with his chest hair. I knew the anticipation was building in Adi's mind and as the clock turned 12 I switched off the TV and sat up and removed my robe. I was not wearing a bra so my breasts just hung out like ripe mangoes and I instructed Adi to suck them. As he got busy pleasuring my boobs I started to nibble on Adi's ear telling him what was to come . I could see his erection bulging out of the panties that were a size to small for him. I asked him to remove the panties as I lay down. I then opened my legs and Adi understood the cue and entered me. As we slowly picked up the rhythm I could see that Adi won't last long so I asked him to pull out. He was confused but complied. After a couple mins of cooling we started again. I told Adi to go slow and warned him that he shouldn't come before me. Adi then started a slow fuck that was AMAZING !!! It got me super hot again in not time, I asked him to go faster and faster and he then really started to give me some. Finally when I knew he was close to coming I pinched his nipples hard which sent him over the edge and he CAME and CAME !!

It was huge load soon it started to drip out of my pussy . I ordered Adi to bring some towels quickly. It was by far the largest load Adi had ejaculated . As we recovered from our post orgasmic bliss we lay in each other's arms I asked Adi as to how it was and he looked into my eyes and said "MIND BLOWING". As I saw Adi relaxing and feeling the bliss it made me very happy but at the same time triggered the domme switch in me. I quickly remarked " I don't think I have received a proper thanks for that". Adi was confused for a moment but then recovered  and quickly got up and started to kiss my feet. I told Adi that as a punishment he needs to keep massaging my feet till I sleep.  

Next Morning as we got up I asked Adi to bring the dice. He threw a 10 and I saw a smirk on his face. I knew I needed to do something to remove that. 

In my next post I will details Adi's remaining orgasms (or ruined orgasms) till now 

Till Later

Pooja

Update

Well it has been some time since I posted so wanted to give a quick update. Things have been progressing quite well. Had a nice vacation in Malaysia/Singapore and came back over the weekend. Had some skirmishes with hubby but all is well now. Will post details in next post .

Till then take care and Happy New Year

Luv Pooja